#narcissistic abuse

[quitblamingnarcissism]

Your parents are not "narcissists". They're typical authoritarian assholes who treat you like their property because society allows them to.

Your ex boyfriend is not a "narcissist". He's a typical misogynistic douchebag who treats women like shit because society allows him to.

Your boss is not a "narcissist". They're a typical classist dipshit who thinks workers' entire purpose in life is to generate profit because society allows them to.

And even if they happen to be a "narcissist", that's not what gave them the power to get away with abuse.

So stop blaming mental illness and start blaming society's normalization of abuse. Stop acting like someone has to have a mental illness in order to do something cruel when ordinary people have been doing atrocious things since forever.

[nothing0fnothing]

being like this and living with someone who doesn't understand is so hard.

[bornfreediedcaged]

as a person who has both npd and bpd, some of the self diagnosed borderlines on here are just narcissists and i’m sorry but it’s because of the fact that undiagnosed/unaware narcissists genuinely believe they’re the victims in situations they started. i love my fellow borderlines and narcissists but some of you have it the wrong way around.

[404daydreams]

"The antidote to narcissism is nothingness and maturity is when you stop talking to the mentally deaf."

-Me.

[crowleysmistress]

insane

and to understand that so normally, is normal, too

Mark the answer that corresponds to the sentences or paragraphs that can be eliminated because they either do not add information or are unrelated to the rest of the text.

56.

A) None

B) 1 and 2

C) 2

D) 4

E) 7

Alejandro Zambra, Multiple Choice

[autopsyfreak]

sanism is ableism

the fact that this has to be said is appalling but so many people seem to disregard ableism when it is presented in the form of sanism, especially when it comes to NPD and ASPD.

{this post does mostly reference NPD, however both NPD and ASPD are both heavily stigmatised disorders where ableism towards them is often overlooked, NPD is just the example used the most within this particular post}

i see a lot of people state that their statements contributing towards the stigma surrounding these disorders can’t be seen as ableist and that anyone who claims it as ableism are just ‘narcissists trying to be oppressed’, despite the fact that many people with personality disorders have been proven to experience oppression both within society as a whole and in medical fields so this point already fails to stand, even before discussing the blatant targeting of NPD.

for those of you who somehow are unaware, sanism (as you can clearly see defined below) is the act of discriminating against people solely based on a specific mental health disorder.

you believing that you’re only being called an ableist because narcissists ‘want to seem like the victims’ is absolutely insane for numerous reasons:

1. NPD is caused by repeated abuse so the idea that we want to be victims is incredibly flawed for the fact alone that we already are victims.

2. you are shifting blame off of yourself and attempting to manipulate others into believing that your prejudice against people with specific mental health issues is actually our problem and not a problem with your behaviour, which puts you in the wrong.

3. you being ableist towards people with NPD does in fact make people with NPD victims of ableism, crazy how that works.

sanism is a form of ableism, your hatred and discriminatory treatment of narcissists and sociopaths/psychopaths (or any other mental illness that you may attempt to stigmatise) IS ableism.

hope that helps.

[lostmf]

[narcissistichedonist]

forcing her to cum over and over again

fingers buried deep, curling just right, pressing against that soft, sensitive spot until her legs tremble. she gasps, body tensing, and then she falls apart, clenching, dripping, shaking in my grasp

again

tongue flicking over her swollen clit, lips wrapped tight around her, sucking until she is thrashing, until her moans turn to desperate sobs. holding her down when she tries to pull away, forcing her to take it until she breaks

again

cock stretching her open, pounding into her, relentless, merciless, dragging her through it, ignoring the way her body shudders and begs for rest. she cums without permission, soaking me, convulsing, falling limp

again

a toy pressed against her, unforgiving, buzzing hard against her overstimulated nerves. she screams, thrashes, but i do not stop. not when she begs. not when she sobs. not when her body locks up and convulses so violently she forgets how to breathe

again

bent over, forced onto her knees, taken from behind, her face pressed into the sheets. she is ruined, undone, wrecked, barely even aware anymore. yet her body knows. her body remembers. her body obeys

again

i'll make her cum her brains out, again, and again, and again...

[sheleftforher]

The Sickness That Was a Warning Your body will always know before your heart does.

[sin-esthezia]

the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other LESS stigmatized mental illness, you can be patient with us.

[quitblamingnarcissism]

If millions of Americans are experiencing it, then it's clearly not caused by mental illness.

Maybe now you can finally admit that "narcissistic abuse" isn't real because your typical bigot has the exact same patterns.

[sir-illmatic]

Justice for Brandi💗

[pezpenser205]

narcissistic abuse believers are so sad.

"no you dont get it thats my emotional support ableism :(( i HAVE to believe that my dad that abused me just did it because he had Irredeemable Monster Disease because if i dont i'll have to accept that my parents just didnt love me ;(((("

"you saying not to blame a traumagenic mental disorder for abusive actions that are already categorized under emotional abuse that anyone is capable of is invalidating meeee and denying victims a voice wahhhh wahhhhh."

"making fun of me proves that youre an evil narcissist just like my dad!!! YOURE the one who cant take accountability!!!!! YOURE projecting!!!!@!!"

"there IS a universally evil subsection of mentally ill people that its okay to harm!!! im not the abusive one right now because ive experienced trauma and am not an evil narcissist, so i could never be abusive because im such a #empath!!!!!!!!! anyway i hope you and every other mentally ill person who internalized trauma in a way i hate and dont understand dies or is isolated from society forever."

istg half of these people need to get checked for npd and im 100% serious. npd abuse believers are some of the most self centered and obscenely socially unaware people ive ever seen. "my feewingsssss my fee fees require ableism to validate my experiences" im so sick of you lol. sometimes shit aint about you.

get tested for a personality disorder. from personal experience, if you WERE abused by someone with a pd as a kid, youll probably be shocked at what youll find staring back at you on the report. lol.

[afriblaq]

They stay obsessed

"Not only that they don't understand the concept of being pro your community, and having pride in who you are without it meaning you hate everyone else. It's because their entire identity is based on hating others, and being in other people's business and oppressing them. No one is ever thinking about them but they are always worried about what we are doing."

[hiddenincommand]

“Bound, caged, and stripped of all autonomy—this is where you belong. My will is the air you breathe, my command the only purpose you serve. You exist for my amusement, to crawl, to kneel, to be broken under the weight of my absolute dominance. Submission isn’t a choice; it’s your reality, and I am your god, your tormentor, your master—merciless, unrelenting, and supreme.”