#narcissistic abuse

[afriblaq]

They stay obsessed

"Not only that they don't understand the concept of being pro your community, and having pride in who you are without it meaning you hate everyone else. It's because their entire identity is based on hating others, and being in other people's business and oppressing them. No one is ever thinking about them but they are always worried about what we are doing."

[narcissistichedonist]

tightly gripping your soft hips to keep you from squirming

ruthlessly bouncing you on my throbbing cock until your sensual thighs strat trembling

shamelessly watching your pretty tits bounce with every rough thrust

hungrily drinking in the way your cutesie body shudders for me

delightedly listening to your sweet gasps turn into helpless cries

greedily flooding your tight little pussy with my warm cum

isn’t it so much fun when i make you ride me, my darling doll ?

[kadirthug]

[draggomon]

Something that I had to work out through therapy is that it's ok to let someone sink and not be responsible.

I had a partner like this. In my metaphor, life is the ocean and living together is the life raft.

We had built a raft together to handle the ocean, but he would keep finding things he didn't like. He would demand I "fix" the life raft or else he would throw himself over, and he could NOT swim.

Through therapy I eventually became able to invite him to do so.

When I eventually left his abuse, he told me to my face that he could not survive without me (he claimed to be disabled, among other things. I won't debate if it's true, let's just assume it was and assume he still didn't have a right to treat me how he did).

Without thinking, I casually commented "then drown. You're not my problem anymore. "

I was vilified so hard to our friends. I came back the next day to find the locks had already been changed, that another friend was there and yelled some pretty vile stuff at me, etc.

I decided to leave most of my stuff and let those friendships die. The friends that questioned things were quickly ostracized and reached out for support and to talk about how fucked it was.

The ones that stuck up just replaced me in the abuse.

It's ok to say that you WILL exist in a certain way, and that people have to agree to your boundaries to exist in your space. It's ok to decide to not exist in others spaces because of their boundaries. But using boundaries as a trap is abuse.

If you're trapped in a cage, it's ok to break the bars so that you can leave.

I think it's interesting how a large amount of polyamorous trans people I talk to tell me about how they date someone who says they're also poly just to later decide "no I'm actually monogamous and you're not allowed to date anyone else" and when the poly person tries to break up the lying mono threatens to kill themselves if they leave, trapping the poly person in a relationship they do not want. It's bizarrely common. Like uncomfortably common.

[hiddenincommand]

Isolation as a Tool: Breaking Through Loneliness and Dependency

True submission cannot exist without dependency. It is not enough to demand obedience—one must create a reality where submission is the only refuge. Isolation is the master’s most refined tool for breaking resistance, stripping away external influence, and forging absolute reliance. Through controlled withdrawal, solitude becomes both a torment and a salvation, ensuring that the subject finds purpose only in servitude.

This essay outlines the strategic implementation of isolation, transforming it from a mere punishment into a methodical process of breaking, rebuilding, and ultimately securing unwavering submission.

Step One: The Purpose of Isolation

Isolation is not simply about removing external distractions; it is about reconstructing the subject’s world to ensure that no source of meaning exists beyond the master’s will.

• Dismantling Self-Reliance: By severing all external support systems, the subject is left with no choice but to depend entirely on the master.

• Eliminating False Independence: Isolation removes illusions of autonomy, forcing the subject to accept its subordinate role.

• Deepening Emotional Dependence: The subject learns that only the master’s presence can provide comfort, validation, and identity.

By understanding isolation as a tool rather than a punishment, the master ensures that submission is cultivated not through coercion but through necessity.

Step Two: Gradual Withdrawal from External Influences

A sudden imposition of solitude can trigger resistance; true mastery requires a calculated and gradual withdrawal of external influences.

• Social Severance: Carefully eliminating friendships, familial bonds, and external relationships ensures that no alternative sources of security remain.

• Environmental Control: The subject’s world is reshaped—limited mobility, controlled communication, and strategic placement in spaces that reinforce dependence.

• Psychological Conditioning: As external voices fade, the subject naturally aligns its emotions, thoughts, and sense of self with the master’s influence.

This phase ensures that isolation does not feel like a forced condition, but rather an inevitable and natural transformation.

Step Three: Cultivating Longing and Emotional Dependency

To deepen submission, isolation must not merely remove external factors—it must create an insatiable craving for the master’s presence.

• Controlled Presence: The master grants and withdraws interaction strategically, making every engagement a moment of immense psychological relief.

• Withdrawal as a Reinforcement Tool: When discipline is required, the mere threat of prolonged isolation is enough to correct behavior.

• Emotional Conditioning: Over time, even the briefest acknowledgment from the master becomes more valuable than any past relationships or external validation.

At this stage, the subject does not merely endure isolation—it begins to fear separation from the master more than the isolation itself.

Step Four: The Breaking Point – Destroying Resistance

The ultimate moment of transformation occurs when the subject reaches the breaking point—when resistance ceases and surrender becomes total.

• Emotional Surrender: The subject abandons all illusions of self-sufficiency, understanding that it exists solely within the framework the master provides.

• Crisis of Identity: Deprived of external affirmation, the subject no longer views itself as an independent entity—it becomes what the master shapes it to be.

• Submission as Salvation: The subject no longer resists submission but seeks it as the only source of stability, safety, and purpose.

Once this moment is reached, obedience is no longer forced—it is internalized.

Step Five: The Final Phase – Isolation as a Permanent State of Mind

True mastery of isolation is achieved when it is no longer required as an external condition but becomes an ingrained psychological reality.

• Internalized Dependence: Even when external influences are reintroduced, the subject remains fully bound, incapable of functioning outside the master’s authority.

• Permanent Restructuring of Thought: Every action, decision, and desire is shaped by the master’s presence, creating a lifelong state of submission.

• Fear of Separation: The subject does not merely obey—it actively ensures that it never exists outside the master’s control, reinforcing its own servitude.

At this stage, external constraints are unnecessary; the subject has become permanently bound, finding fulfillment only in submission.

Conclusion

The art of isolation is not about physical separation—it is about complete mental and emotional restructuring. When executed with precision, it eliminates resistance, removes all external dependencies, and replaces them with absolute loyalty. The subject no longer sees itself as an independent being, but as an extension of the master’s will.

True isolation does not confine—it liberates the subject from its former self, ensuring that it finds peace, purpose, and identity only in submission.

[the-bonfires-ember]

hey to all the people that are like 'i get that narcissistic abuse is demonising people with NPD but i wish we had a word for that kind of abuse that wasnt stigmatising' i have a tip for you.

its just abuse. emotional abuse if you want to be super specific but literally just call it abuse man. its fine. abuse is complex and frankly all the 'specific' terms are just as unspecific as 'abuse' by itself.

you arent gonna be able to glue two words together to make a great and perfectly clear definition of what you experienced because thats just not how abuse works. so just get used to it being a one word thing and something you have to explain if people want to hear about it

[suffering-from-melancholy]

Ableists are like: "You can't use your disorder as an explanation to your behaviour and you make your whole self from your disorder" and next call you abusive and evil because you're narcissistic or antisocial

[quitblamingnarcissism]

Your parents are not "narcissists". They're typical authoritarian assholes who treat you like their property because society allows them to.

Your ex boyfriend is not a "narcissist". He's a typical misogynistic douchebag who treats women like shit because society allows him to.

Your boss is not a "narcissist". They're a typical classist dipshit who thinks workers' entire purpose in life is to generate profit because society allows them to.

And even if they happen to be a "narcissist", that's not what gave them the power to get away with abuse.

So stop blaming mental illness and start blaming society's normalization of abuse. Stop acting like someone has to have a mental illness in order to do something cruel when ordinary people have been doing atrocious things since forever.

[sin-esthezia]

the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other LESS stigmatized mental illness, you can be patient with us.

[visionsofaselfmademan]

[lostmf]

[livingfictionsystem]

-Xanthe 🪶

[autopsyfreak]

the biggest betrayal. bffr

[narcissistichedonist]

my darling doll is a shy innocent girl who'll do the filthiest acts to please me merely to be called a good girl

that's why she's my favourite

[narcitism]

my abuser had brown hair im a victim of brunette abuse :(